Build your confidence This might not be at the top of the list, but it’s important. After divorce, you might feel less confident about yourself and your abilities. You might have lost some self-esteem and feel that you’re not worthy of dating or finding love again. You might also be lacking in self-confidence when it comes to dating: meeting new people, flirting, and making a good first impression. Exercising, eating well, and getting enough sleep are all important aspects of building your self-confidence and self-esteem. Take care of your health, so you have the energy and self-belief to succeed at the things you want in life. Practicing self-care and setting boundaries can also help you become more confident again.